In Dismantling Sexuality I and II I have encouraged you to re-focus your concerns about sexuality into terms that focus more on the development of a healthy ‘self’ coining the term healthy Selfuality. Creating a shift in thinking takes practice.  It’s been said that it takes 21 days to create a habit, which is a shift in thinking that brings about change in action.  The topic of Selfuality has such a broad range of areas that are important.  So it may take you many 21 day trials to address all the area that you may desire shifting.  Be gentle, supportive yet demanding of yourself in ... [read more]...

Dismantling Sexuality   Part II They hear what they see. Parents help to develop the ‘self’ of their child over time.  They are the primary contributors to the healthy ‘selfuality’ of their children.  I believe the role of parent begins at day one, where all of what you say and do, all of what you react to and act on will be transmitted to your child, your child who’s primary means of learning is by watching and their primary teacher you. Heavy responsibility. It’s easy to assume that if there is no reaction from a child, often a noise or verbal cue that there is no understandi ... [read more]...

by: Kim McLeod Let’s refer to sexuality as Selfuality from now on.  We can all move past the sex part which is a real stopper for a lot of people.  You know people tend to think about the sex part of sexuality like they think about a wedding.  It gets a lot of focus but has little to do with the long HAUL. So why then do we get stuck on the sex part of  sexuality when speaking with our children?  What is it about the sex part that creates a slight ‘panic’ and dissolves the conversation? Try making a list of thoughts and feelings that come to mind, spend some time with th ... [read more]...