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I’m taking a good 3 days OFF from parenting.   I can hear the gasps of horror alongside the moans of wanting this sooo bad… Time off is a way to stay fresh, self connected and through that, more available for those you love. It is also one of the most uncomfortable activities to settle into and get used too.  We never stop!  We are most often doing for others and getting a lot out of the feel good parts of being busy activities. ( search chemical oxytocyn) We have a part of the brain that says – How could you? and that triggers the guilty thinking to continue just as yo ... [read more]...

I found these tips in a 1981 newsletter from my high school. It’s amazes me! A) I had kept this piece of paper for 30 years and b) that the parenting tips of yesteryear are not too off base from what I hear in the parent education community today. We always need to tweak a little to suit our styles…but… What do you think? Did your parents raise you with these tips? Have we learned anything different or better about parenting in the past 30 years? “Your Child will Appreciate Fair but Firm Discipline” – P.T.A. press -Don’t be afraid to be firm with ... [read more]...

So, Kim what do you do? I support women having healthy communication with their children. Wonderful! I also help parents talk about healthy sexuality, BAM! (Insert jaw drop) WARNING! This post will have sexual terms that will offend some people. [caption id="attachment_347" align="alignnone" width="155" caption="the sexes"][/caption] The majority of parents respond with one of two statements 1. Oh my child isn’t old enough for that yet.              2. We already had ‘the talk’ with our children. Avoidance is not pretty! Let me tell you now… 1.  Your baby/child will be s ... [read more]...

All was good until I began cleaning the floors…that’s when my mom unexpectedly showed up. I was getting ready for company last week.  I had been determined NOT to knock myself out cleaning the house.  I told myself “These are good friends, forgiving friends who will love me despite any failings in housework.” “Your fooling yourself Kim” says my mom…clear as day…as if she was there in the room.  But she wasn’t, she was in my head!  “Those floor boards are really overdue for a cleaning and look at the dust on the living room shelves!  You’d better get on that” The b ... [read more]...

Being a working mom sucks! Your damned if you do and damned if you don’t! There are times where I am absolutely split down the middle between wanting to stay home to do home work and having to go to work or work from home. I have dreams you know….to become a lead CEO, Oprahish woman of my own company and there is a great amount of clarity for that vision.  That is until my little one says something like, “put that away…stop working and be with me.”  I crumble. Right then I want abandon my CEO world for this precious loving child. I have wonderful dreams of bein ... [read more]...

I was reminded that I have a story and that my mission is to share my story, not for the sake of the story but for the opportunity to offer HOPE that ‘the story’ is not the definition of who you are and there is no need to hold onto the negativity of it. The stories that women carry through life often have a common theme of loss and regret. I had a still birth, an abortion.  I gave my child up for adoption I gave myself away through sex. I lied, I deceived, I stole. I regret…. Any or all of these can rest in our hearts for years, if not a lifetime. It is only by going THROUGH the proce ... [read more]...

From the moment we are pregnant with our first, we begin to create a list of ‘good mother’ ideals.  We swear by these, that we will do right by our child with them. The ideals are often born out of our past positive experiences and where our experiences were negative we create the opposites to meet our needs. The Good Mother plan begins to take payment within the first months; the charge is episodes of guilt, failure, worry, fear…. You know you are depositing on the plan when you find yourself in tears or grasped by overwhelming fear and frustration. So what’s a mom to do? Well you c ... [read more]...